You Asked BigKidSmallCity!
With 3 kids, a job and a blog, how do you keep it together?
I get this question a lot. And, it’s easy to answer. I don’t.
Every time I’ve tried to “do it all”, it’s had an ugly ending. Now I try to give myself some slack. My scrapbooks aren’t going to get done and I don’t know where James’s baby book is. I don’t do much cooking and I’ve hired someone to fold my laundry. I try to focus on what is important to me and not what I think a “good mom” should do each day.
And even with this, I don’t keep it all together. I just do the best I can with the hours I have in a day.
But what does your day look like?
It looks messy. Like a big mash of chaos, sprinkled with dirty laundry, homework and lunch boxes. But I suspect the question was asked to get some details on how I schedule my time.
It looks like this…
Each Sunday I get out my notebook and make plan for the week. Each day has a page and I write out my kid’s appointments, my work meetings, the content I want to post and what needs to get done. I even write down things like, drop kids off at school and take lunch boxes. And yes, it could be done electronically, and yes, I do work in the high-tech sector, and yes I have an Outlook and a Google Calendar, but I like pen and paper for the “To-Do” list.
Each evening during the week, I review the list for the next day. I make modifications and add new items to the list of things to do. In the morning, I look at it again and prioritize again.
On the list of things to do, I decide what must be done before I go to bed at night. These I do first. Because if I don’t, and I look at my list at midnight and have things I still must do before going to sleep, I get mad, sad, irritated, deflated and lots of other things. So, I do the “must dos” first and the “should dos” second.
And, I drive my kids to school and attend lots of conference calls and blog and try to cross items off my to-do list, as quickly as possible. And what doesn’t get done, gets deleted permanently or moved to the next day’s or next weekend’s list.
When I’m overwhelmed, I just do something. I start moving on something and eventually work up the motivation to tackle more projects on my list.
And finally, when there is just too much to do, I make another list. I write down everything I’m trying to get done in my days. I look at the long list and decide what I actually care about. I ask myself why I think I need to get something done. I decide what can be scratched out, what can wait until the kids are 18 years old, what can wait until next week and so on. The list gets a lot more manageable when I decide to not do some things.